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We were discussing about females virginity yesterday and someone was like the only way to know if a girl is a virgin is that it’s a must every girl bleeds during her first sex and am sure majority have same mindset and this is wrong Bleeding doesn’t determine a girl is a virgin so I decided to release this article to help educate our young men and women on this issue of girls bleeding during first sex
There’s a very common myth in South and Central Asia (Pakistan, India, Bangladesh, Afghanistan etc.) and Africa (Nigeria and many other nations ) that you can tell if a woman is a virgin, by whether or not she bleeds the first time she has sex. There is zero truth in this. Not all women bleed the first time they have sex, as I’ll explain in this post. To understand why some women bleed and some don’t, it’s very important to understand what the hymen is. The hymen is a membrane that tends to cover part of the vaginal opening (it does not always block or cover the entire vagina, as some people mistakenly think).
NOT ALL WOMEN HAVE A HYMEN. The hymen also differs from woman to woman – like all women have different heights and weights and features, all women also have different amounts and types of hymen. Some women have thick hymens, some have very thin hymens, and some women have NO hymens at all. Some women have larger hymens, some women naturally have a very little amount of hymen that covers only a small portion of their vaginal opening (and hence does not really get in the way, during first-time sex). In addition to this, the hymen wears away on its own as you grow up. For most women, the hymen wears away on its own with exercise, bicycling, horseback riding -it can wear off with pretty much any other physical activity, even dancing! – or from using tampons when menstruating. Especially if the hymen is very small or thin, most of it tends to wear away on its own as a girl grows up. If a woman is born WITHOUT a hymen, she won’t bleed the first time she has sex. If a woman has a small or thin hymen, she might not bleed the first time she has sex.
If a woman’s hymen has worn away on its own (which is very common as girls grow up), she won’t bleed the first time she has sex. The result is that the overwhelming majority -at least 63% of women – will NOT bleed the first time they have sex, according to a study published by the British Medical Journal. Women who do bleed include: – Women with thick hymens (who constitute a small percentage of the population) – Younger girls. Because the hymen wears away on its own with time, a 16-year old has a higher chance of bleeding than a 25-year old. By the time a girl is of or above the legal age of consent – 18, 20, 24 years of age, for example – most of her hymen is likely to have worn away on its own, meaning it’s unlikely that she’ll bleed a lot, if at all.
However, even a young girl can be physically active, have a thin or small hymen, or have no hymen at all, meaning she might not bleed during first-time sex. – Most often, women who bleed tend to be women who are dealt with roughly during sex. If the guy forces himself inside the girl, when she isn’t ready, relaxed or aroused enough, he is likely to cause injury or bleeding. Because most people think it’s normal for women to bleed the first time they have sex, they don’t realize that this bleeding is a result of the woman having been hurt, and not of the hymen ‘breaking.’ Painful first-time sex is generally because the woman is not relaxed or aroused enough, and gets hurt as a result; it is rarely ever because of the hymen breaking. The bottom line is that there are other ways to assess female virginity.
Bleeding does not guarantee virginity – it has to do with the kind of hymen a girl has, and hymens differ from girl to girl from birth. The result is that only a small percentage of women bleed the first time! (Only 37% bleed during first-time sex, according to the study published in the British Medical Journal.) Why is this so important to be aware of? Women all over the world get abused, injured and even killed due to the myth of ‘virgin bleeding.’ Because most people (men AND women) think that bleeding is a sign of virginity, women who don’t bleed the first time have been divorced, suffered from suspicion leading to domestic violence and abuse, and even killed for honour. Educating people that a girl does not necessarily have to bleed the first time she has sex – because not all girls have thick hymens, and some are born with no hymen at all – is important because it can literally save lives. P.S: I understand that not everyone is able to share material like this, even if they want to.
However, the only way we can educate people regarding this issue is if it goes into the news feeds of as many people as possible, if as many people as possible read it. So please consider sharing. If you can’t share, please like, leave a comment or forward it to your friends. We have to make content like this visible to increase it reach, to educate people ,to have impact
Driver lands in court after landing a heavy punch on his boss
A 28-year-old driver, Kingsley Edem, was arraigned before the Ikeja Magistrates’ Court in Lagos state yesterday March 20th, for landing a punch on his boss in the mouth during an argument.
According to police prosecutor, Sgt. Ishola Samuel, Edem who resides at No.14, Adetuberu St., Olowora, Lagos, is Femi Badmus’s driver.
Badmus had reported to the police that Edem punched him several times in the mouth during a disagreement in his home on No 19 Ogunbeye St., Olowora, Lagos on March 9th.
The police prosecutor said, the offence contravenes the provisions of Section 173 of the revised Criminal Law of Lagos State, 2015. Section 173 which stipulates a three-year jail term for any offender if found guilty.
Magistrate A. I. Abina, admitted Edem to bail in the sum of N10,000 with one surety in like sum.
Magistrate Abina ordered that the surety must be gainfully employed and should provide proof of two years’ tax payment to the Lagos State Government.
What raged between Edem and his boss, Badmus wasn’t made known but
Magistrate Abina adjourned the case until April 8 for mention.
Chinese father sells his baby daughter to pay off gambling debts
A Chinese father has been arrested for selling his 1-year-old daughter for £6,800 to pay off his gambling debts.
Jiang, sold the one-year-old to a couple after owing more than 60,000 Yuan (£6,798), according to reports in China.
Jiang told his wife that he was taking their daughter to stay with his mother. He flew the child more than 1,150 miles away from their home in Guiyang, Guizhou province, last November.
Wang, his wife grew concerned after his failure to return three months later but repeatedly postponed their return.
In February, 2019, she checked her husband’s phone and found shocking conversations between her husband and her daughter’s buyers.
Wang went to her husband’s mother in Zunyi city, about 87 miles away, who informed her that her son and granddaughter left her weeks ago.
She immediately contacted police and they tracked Jiang down to a hotel in Guiyang last month.
When he was caught, Jiang admitted to owing a huge gambling debt and decided to take the drastic measure after seeing online adverts for child adoption.
How Jiang Planned on Selling his daughter
Jiang lied to the buyers – a couple in Zhoushan, Zhejiang province – that he was a single father who could no longer afford to care for the girl. He went further to claim that his own parents were dead so he had nowhere else to turn.
Fortunately, the child was located by the police last Friday and reunited with her mum.
Jiang has been arrested and charged with suspicion of human trafficking, according to the police.
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